if you have bpd just remember to surround yourself with people who are able and willing to take care of you, if they arent please just cut them off they are not worth your time honestly. they need to be able to deal with the real you, all of you. there is nothing wrong with having BPD the probably is the people not caring enough about your bpd to help you.
>>147138 # it is so true i had a boyfriend and he just wouldnt put up with my bpd episodes anymore so i told him i could not put up with him anymore either. its a two way street.. if he isnt involved enough why should i be. im the one who needs extra care and there is nothing wrong with that.
If you don't like me at my meltdowns you don't deserve me at my BPD :)))
How's it going /j/ ? I havent checked up in a while and it blows my mind that this website is about to reach 200k total posts. This is nice. I remember when it was at 10k posts, and it has really blown up since then.
>>174445 # they're just using the discord and dont want to use this anymore for whatever reason they're too addicted to discord and all of their information being sold and their personalities some of the reasons ive been told is "i wanna know who im talking to" or "nobody will know its me"
i suppose we cant rely on our community to do it though we have to look elsewhere
chen2 is slowly gaining rep. we'll attract more and more attention
yeah speaking of someone shilled us on /a/ and i had no idea that even happened check the main /j/ page and theres a new general with 9 people in it from /a/ of all places they got ran off /a/ by the mods, who knew
>they got ran off /a/ by the mods, who knew this kind of shit happens everyday. It's surprising they already knew about chen2 and knew we could host them though. 4chan is draconian about banning other chan's because they're afraid of anyone leaving them. of course, no other chan was really a threat before because they were just as broken
>>203947 # yea thats why its bad lol. >impossible to give it up ur just weakspirited. not that i can say much since im only a day in but ive gone months on nofap before. its not too bad once you commit yourself to stopping
im the guy who started nofap yesterday and a chick already asked me if i had my own place and said we should hang out. >inb4 normalfag no, shes just a whore. i'll let you virgins know how the sex is hehehoho
>>211201 # I did no fap for a week and broke it after having dreams of hairy dykes fisting eachother amd wakimg up in a cold sweat with a massive boner. Never again. Going like 2-3 days and then hitting the sad panda is optimal.
>>217894 # haha I love the title screen music too! I'm a little unconfirdent so I have not started a new game but I think after a little bit (when i'm ready ) I might , I might post about it on line, I mean, it has GIRLS and they also have vaginas
>>257047 # /j/ was intended for oldfag /jp/ and its lineage, /s4s/ etc. /a/ is being shilled to zoomer twitter traps and /lgbt/ cuteposters. There is barely any crossover. The /j/ posters that have run away have all crawled back to discord, not /a/, kek
Announcing "/a/ board is live" everywhere, having it at the top of the screen. Why wouldn't it. You arent making new websites man they're the same website. Why wouldnt people crossboard if /j/ is dead most of the time
I'd love to post more here but I'm just not motivated to when there's not really other ppl doing so as well. I don't mind /a/ being a thing, let the trannies have their cuteposting safespace. Or whoever wants to use it.
>>257082 # They already ran away from /j/. They're not /j/'s community. the /s4s/ people have been more loyal. discord oldfags are not a communtiy worth retaining.
>>257139 # Maybe you're refering to the lolcows that kind of drift around on the server
>>257142 # It was started by like 2 or 3 interested people. The other hanger-ons were just sourced for traffic. Most of them put in zero effort into maintaining it and ran right back to their comfort zone the moment it faltered. The zoomers at /kr/ had much more loyalty in the small periods of downtime.
>>257152 # Zoomers from kr also posting on discord. I don't think thats a big argument point. Make /j/ good and good people will come, no? I do think there are entertaining people from discord, maybe not even a low percent of them, but still i think anyone with a like mindset is worth having around.
>>257173 # There's like 3 posting on the meta server. They're not being dragged back into the source discord, like what happened with the /tt/ thread resulting in its immediate death.
The trouble with any imageboard is momentum is necessary to bring in traffic, people see an active board and join in on the fun, they see a dead board and leave without contributing. It needs to start with some community to have the community ready to go. If that community runs back to discord and doesn't ever leave the moment things slow down, the momentum is lost forever the moment its lost for a second.
The only solution is finding communities that are less lame and gay, and gathering at least a decent group of base users who can maintain loyalty until momentum is achieved. Discordcucks aren't going to be that.
>>257176 # I agree. Momentum is not really created by making multiple anime boards Yeah ok they're all trannies there. But people associate /a/ with 4chan /a/ of course and new posters may wind up there. I see where you're coming from and agree with the most part but i do think that /a/ may lower post count in /j/ potentially
/j/ isnt a space for traps and trannies. I've tried introducing them here but they get trolled out. /a/ is an alternate space for them. They're discreet communities.
>>257221 # Ok i get that I wonder if /a/ is the best name however
maybe another letter would have been better. we were thinking of /g/ too /a/ is employed for its connotations with /a/nime, as an alternative to /j/, but adding its social component that manifests in imageboard culture.
>>257269 # /ga/ for gay anime. I see you like single letter names but kr already exists so whatever
unfortunately I've tried having these discussions on this with zero input over the last week
overall the issue in momentum is primarily in loyalty and invested actors. all it takes to make shilling successful, is having people talking and having conversations in the board when new eyes show up. this isn't a problem in the other boards but /j/'s community has dwindled to just a tiny handful of users who aren't online often enough to be online at the same time. even on /a/ the problem right now is no one is posting - if people were posting, other people would be posting too. few have the commitment or energy to bother making that investment
>>257330 # yes but we need more people. its pathetic how few can commit when it clearly has the potential for much more fun shitposting if they did
I hope were not talking about adding another board, it'll just be dead lol. We should grow according to our size.
good morning everyone
Going to this place is slightly better than trying to use psychotropic drugs to induce a schizoid mental breakdown for the purpose of having conversations with the voices in my head, or pretending to have imaginary friends and talking to myself. But only slightly.
>>259599 # no, I understand that. Talking to internet people is like that. It can stave off the dread and despair some of the time but only so much better than even just talking to yourself for hours.
I have the impression that only around 20-30% of the people here have a meaningful social life. If that is so, what do we 70% gain from going here? I remember a video by some guy, I think “J.T. Sexkik” on why he left 4chan, and I agree with his opinions. It really doesn’t fix anything or contribute to your quality of life.
I have the impression that only around 20-30% of the people here have a meaningful social life. If tgat us so what do we 70% gain fron going here? I remember a video from some guy, "J.T. Sexkik" on why he left 4chan, and I agree with his opinions. It really doesn't fix anything or contribute to your quality of life.
>>261977 # That video misses the point. He frames the value and point of communication as a means of creating connections with others or as a means of creating social capital. He isn't valuing the interaction itself. The purpose of this medium is to remove social capital and connections with others so that the only value here is the interactions you have with others.
If you just want to generate social capital and make friends, this isn't a place to do that. But if you think the only point of interactions is the connections you make, it's a very limited and bad take and I think that the people who use the site in that way are using it without really knowing "why" they are using it.
>>262108 # Interesting theory, but I am not sure I fully understand your perspective here. You speak of "valuing the interaction itself". I loosely remember taking a sort of intro to philosophy class a while back, and I remember we focused mostly on epistemology. A large part of what we discussed was the nature of language, communication, and other intersections between sociology, and epistemology. What I want to suggest is that by removing all traces of identity, communication is transformed, but not entirely in a positive way. Indeed, many aspects of it are nullified.
A person may as well sit in a crowded party, and attempt to interject in other people's conversations across the room, by talking aimlessly into space and hoping they overhear your voice (on top of the background chatter) and realize that you were attempting to talk to them. At this point neither of you have seen each other, and so, with context removed, the communication is largely useless.
>>262124 # I can explain more before responding to you- I think that the purpose of this medium is interaction without social connection. A lot of people post on imageboards without realizing the nature of the medium and then disappoint themselves when they can't apply value systems based around social capital that they are used to imposing on their interactions with others. Users will post because they want to become a part of a community and not because they want to act within this new medium and realize it's use and potential.
>At this point neither of you have seen each other, and so, with context removed, the communication is largely useless. This is exactly what i'm talking about. You are still imposing this value system onto your interactions with others. You aren't seeing the communications as inherently valuable, only the connections you made with the other person as a result.
>>262108 # I'd agree with this. The whole reason I like image boards is because I can call people niggers without consquences because I'll never regularly see these people because we are both don't have identities.
>>262137 # Social capital, as far as I understand it, is a modern sociology concept which is used to explain how different groups compete for prestige and influence. I.E. if we were discussing workplace interactions, or minority voices on social media, we could use "social capital" (which is a human construct, not an objective measurable characteristic) as a useful term of art to try to define the hierarchical aspects of the relationships. I don't see how it applies here, though.
>>262154 # Just the idea of talking about how others perceive you as a resource. At least this is how I am using it.
>>262154 # When people are attached to identities, social capital can be created through interacting with others to increase the perception of your identity with others. In that way it changes how the interaction works- you are posting while being mindful of how your post can create or destroy some of this "resource". It's just reputation. If you make connections to others or make valuable posts to others, you gain social capital. This only works if everyone has an identity.
>>262137 # Let me tell you. There are two cases in which it is hypothetically possible to gain something of moderate use from an anonymous, or "black box" interaction -- 1. Humor, while not particularly important in the grand scheme of things, can be shared without even knowing each other. 2. Information. I do not really know who writes wikipedia articles, but fortunately, I don't have to know or really care. The nature of the knowledge is technical, and thus is useful without a human element.
Notice how really, there is no niche to be gained for ostensibly social, yet anonymous interactions which neither 1. Satisfy the innate neurological need for human interaction. 2. Lead to non-anonymous relationships.
I can enjoy sharing humor, posting for other people to laugh at. Or sharing information and enjoying other peoples appreciation without ever knowing who they are. But really. Thats about it. It's better than a chat bot, because a chat bot will eventually run out of interesting ways to tell you to go fuck yourself, kys, "cope", and the myriad other inane responses commonly seen here.
>>262170 # How does a lack of identity devalue other interactions? You aren't proving anything here, but rather, asserting your premise again.
>>262170 # Now that you're done with your post, I still, think that you are just asserting your own values instead of making an argument about WHY you think a lack of identity devalues interactions. This is a summary about how you feel about interactions...
>>262193 # Really I think that we could start with; what is the value of this interaction with me? It must be valuable enough for you to keep replying. But it also doesn't fit into your values about interactions.
I think that the reason you keep discussing it is because there is an inherent value in the interaction itself and not in the social connections that you could potentially be making. And the purpose of this medium is to remove social connections in order for the only valuable parts of the interactions to be the value of the ideas and statements made, and thus removing ideas and statements made in order to accumulate social capital or create social connections.
>>262189 # I am not quite arguing lack of identity devalues interactions. Rather I am trying to pick apart where the value of interactions comes from in the first place -- with the general theory that anonymous interactions will rarely have good value. e.g. the only reason I am having this discussion is because I find the ideas you suggest interesting.
>>262206 # I would define interaction as two different people communicating with each other.
I don't really know how this conversation is being devalued by the lack of social connections. If the value of interaction is derived from the social connections you make, except for a couple of cases, like you said, then what is the: >I find the ideas you suggest interesting.
Do you think that this fits into category 2 of >>262170 # ?
>>262216 # So - what are the neccessary conditions for this communication? Does it have to be deliberate? Does it have to be intended for a specific audience? If it is received by a different audience than the one it was intended for - is it still meaningful? Does it require people to be able to be able to address each other? Why do we have reply indicators? Why do we say ntayrt for not the anon you are responding to? Does the recieving person have to be able to “correctly” parse and interpret the idea - and thus gain the intended mental concept, for the communication to be effective?
If I start speaking but you cannot correctly interpret my message, then language has went beneath Art. At least with Art, we intend to stimulate each other’s minds or otherwise express an internal creative/emotional spark as a psychological exercise. We don’t need any particular agenda, message, or idea to make art. At the extreme end of abstract art, there are works which are deliberately intended to not resemble anything. It takes quite a mental feat to accomplish this, but it’s possible.
Yet if I speak and my words are unintelligible, the action has been rendered moot. It might not even be possible to tell whether the attempted communication was deliberate or just some sort of spasm or absent minded mumbling. At best, you might determine I was trying to draw attention to myself.
>>262407 # If you want to talk about communication in the most basic form, we could say that anything I do that changes the way you think is "communication".
The imageboard format isn't so absolutist that it has no concept of a person, or a reply to that person- but between conversations there is no persistent identity.
I think I know what you're trying to say- that because the imageboard format is not absolute, pure communication, then the reason the communication is valuable is because of the aspects of the format like identities and replies allow us to derive value from it. And because this isn't a pure example, then I can't argue that we are deriving inherent value out of our communication.
I think that, the value of the interactions here, without identities, can be derived from the value of the information that is passed between us, and the value we can derive from the aspects of this format like replies and the natural flow of the conversation does not come from the idea that we are interacting with other people, but rather the idea that this interaction between people is increasing the amount and value of information that is produced. In this way the value we are deriving from the concept of the individual within the medium does not come from an idea of creating personal connections or changing perceptions of each other.
In other words: the reason that this interaction is valuable isn't because of how our interactions with each other will change our perceptions of each other. Instead the value of the interaction comes from the information we can transmit to each other and how by interacting with another the whole is greater than the sum of it's parts- the information will become more valuable by having multiple people contributing to it's creation.
I need your advice chen6 bpd edition.. I realised.. that maybe.. there is no point in making food anymore. I can buy all the food I need, I can eat anything. Why do we need anything other than fast food? Whats the point of anything? Why does my cum taste so strange?
>>263651 # 1. take-out gets expensive 2. outside food could have spit, cum, pee (or other substances) or been dropped on the floor (or placed in/on other places) if the chef is having a rough day, the establishment is secretly unhygienic or the waiter/staff doesn't like you for any reason 3. you probably need to drink more water
>>263651 # cooking is cheaper and important! if you just buy all of your food you will lose money and also have worse food...
A human egg has a diameter of about 100 microns, or roughly the thickness of a single strand of hair. Ever since you ate that single sperm cell from your dad inside your moms uterus you grew exponentially to the size of a 900 gram baby in the span of 9 months. Why are you anons not taking the sperm-eating pill yet???
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